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Tuesday, 26 January 2010

Dad: Part 4

Posted on 22:18 by Unknown
Thanksgiving 2009...

Kristi, Kelsey and I were so excited to do the Thanksgiving Day 5k. With a lot of unknowns still looming in the case of my dad's health, I decided to still go and do it. I am so glad I did. Walking, running, and doing the bob and weave with these girls was the highlight of my Thanksgiving. I smiled. I laughed. I had great joy.

After the race, I headed home to shower. Upon my arrival, my brother-in-law and friend, Jon gave me the news about my dad. My dad decided to sign a DNR (Do Not Resuscitate) and made the decision to be taken off all machines. Up to this point, I didn't tell many people about my dad. I didn't post anything on Twitter or Facebook, until this day... and all of a sudden, it was real and it was grave.

I talked to Jon about my reasoning for not going. I talked to him about my emotions in all of this. I was honest with him. I didn't hold anything back. He didn't tell me what to do. He just listened. He told me that I had to do what was right for me, no matter what people said. Jon may never know just how much of a blessing he is to me. He married my sister almost 3 years ago, and I couldn't be more thankful for that!

After talking to Jon for a while, I decided that I wanted to go to the hospital to be with my family. I wanted to be there for my sisters and for my dad. I wanted to be there. I didn't have anything profound to say, I just wanted to be there. I felt the urgency. So, we jumped in the car (sans shower I should add) and headed to the hospital.

There was little to no excitement... a lot of sitting around and waiting. My dad was out of it. We didn't talk, but he knew that I was there. I knew that I was there. My sisters knew that I was there. After hours of sitting, I headed home to shower, went to my grandma's to say hello and grab some food, then had dinner with my neighbors. After dinner, I headed back to the hospital for a little bit.

Again, there was little to no excitement, so I headed home to sleep... knowing that Friday would probably be another LONG day.

Friday ended up being shorter but much more emotional and gut-wrenching than I had anticipated.
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Sunday, 17 January 2010

Ready To Love Again

Posted on 20:03 by Unknown
Seems I was walking in the wrong direction
I barely recognized my own reflection, no
Scared of love, but scared of life alone
Seems I've been playin' on the safe side baby
Building walls around my heart to save me, oh
But it's time for me to let it go.

Yeah, I'm ready to feel now
No longer am I 'fraid of the fall down
It must be time to move on now
Without the fear of how it might end
I guess I'm ready to love again.

Just when you think that love will never find you
You run away but still it's right behind you, oh
It's just something that we can't control

Yeah, I'm ready to feel now
No longer am I 'fraid of the fall down
It must be time to move on now
Without the fear of how it might end
I guess I'm ready to love again.

So come and find me
I'll be waiting up for you
I'll be holding out for you tonight

Yeah, I'm ready to feel now
No longer am I 'fraid of the fall down
It must be time to move on now
Without the fear of how it might end
I guess I'm ready, ready to love again.

-Lady Antebellum
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Back In The Day...

Posted on 09:46 by Unknown
I was REALLY cute.






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Saturday, 16 January 2010

San Diego SUPER Chargers

Posted on 21:46 by Unknown
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Tuesday, 12 January 2010

Wow.

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Thursday, 7 January 2010

Dad: Part 3

Posted on 20:13 by Unknown
I realized as I was updating my blog a bit that I left you all hanging about my dad. I left off at writing my dad a letter that my sister would read to him...

Wednesday, my sister read the letter to my dad. He asked if I was going to see him. My sister couldn't tell him no. You might think that I am heartless for not seeing my dad. The reality is, I don't care what you think. I had to do what was right for me. I have done A LOT of counseling when it comes to my "daddy issues" and every counselor has said the same thing in different ways... PROTECT YOURSELF.

Every time I would start to let my dad in, he would let me down. There is only so much disappointment and heart ache a person can take from one person.

My dad called me 2 weeks before he was coming out to San Diego and had said that he wanted to see me while he was out here. I said, "OK. Well, call me when you get to town and we can talk about meeting up." I didn't say Yes or No. I left it open. Really, I did that because I wanted to see if he would even call. He didn't.

My dad was here for almost 2 months and never called. I know that I could have called him, that wasn't the point. I wanted to see if my dad would follow through. He didn't.

I sat in a counseling appointment on Wednesday, November 18th in which my counselor and I talked about my dad being in town but not calling. She asked if I was going to see my dad and I said NO and that I had a peace about it. Again, I had to do what was right for me and I had to protect myself.

Again with the time line...
Wednesday the 18th, Counseling session in which I said I wasn't going to see my dad.
Thursday the 19th, dad was admitted to the hospital.
Wednesday the 25th, my sister read my dad the letter and he asked if I was going to see him.

Wednesday nights, I go to a spin class with my dearest freighbor. After spin, I headed over to the Harvmo house for some wine and pie baking, as Thanksgiving was the next day. Teresa, my best friends mom, sat me down and lectured me. She lectured me out of complete and total love. She, in so many words, told me that I had to see my dad.

I said, "OK, but we are going right now and are staying for 5 minutes and I am not paying for parking." We laughed like little kids the whole way there, as I was in my sweaty gym clothes and slippers. She kept trying to get my to put on lip gloss and was upset that she forgot her camera for this moment. Teresa has a way of bringing joy in dark moments.

We got to the hospital and I walked in, much to my sister and dad's surprise.

I said Hi.

He said Hi.

I asked him how he was feeling.

He said OK.

He passed out from the pain and drugs and everything else.

I stayed more than the 5 minute limit. I stayed about 20 minutes, until my dad's wife arrived.

Teresa and I went back to the house to continue making pies and drinking wine. We talked here and there about what it felt like.

To be totally honest, I went that night for everyone else. I went for my friends and family who told me that I would regret it. I went to get people off of my back. I didn't want to deal with people telling me how to deal with my dad any more. I wanted to shut people up.

That night, I went for everyone else.

The next day, Thanksgiving, I would go for myself.
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Choose Well

Posted on 19:57 by Unknown
One of my biggest pet peeves in life is when someone acts out with passive aggressive behavior. Don't get me wrong... we are ALL guilty of being passive aggressive here and there and we are ALL guilty of being negative Nancy's every once in a while. I just don't understand the CONSTANT state of it.

Why be so negative?!

We have ALL gone through crappy times. We have ALL had someone we love, someone we are close to, someone we know, or someone in our family die. We have ALL dealt with love lost in some way. We have ALL felt insecure about the way we look, talk, walk, sneeze, laugh, etc. In the end, we all have plenty of reasons to bitch and complain about life. But who wants to live life that way?

GET OVER IT!

Trust me, I know that some things are hard to get over. I had a dad that was rarely if ever there, I had to pay for my own college, I have never had a boyfriend, I have had friends come and go, I have dealt with friends dying... I have seen and experienced some pretty shitty things. But I don't set-up camp there.

I choose well.

I choose to celebrate the great things that I have. I choose to rejoice over the friends and love that I do have, rather than mourn what I don't. I choose to appreciate the job that I have and the ways that I am able to provide for my needs and most of my wants, rather than cry that I can't buy what I want when I want. I choose to call my friends and family, instead of waiting for them to call me. I choose to set-up camp in a place that reflects and exudes hope, joy, life, love, and peace.

Life sucks sometimes... your attitude doesn't have to.

Choose well.

Don't be negative.

You don't get to pick your circumstances or the situations that life may throw at you, but you get to pick the way you respond. If you want something, say it. If you are mad at someone, tell them. If you need something, ask for it. If something is bothering you, do what you can to fix it. Don't sit around and wait for things to change... you will be miserable.

Don't be negative Nancy.
Don't be sarcastic Sally.
Don't be irritated Irene.
Don't be pessimistic Patrick.
Don't be mellow-dramatic Molly.
Don't be passive aggressive Paul.

CHOOSE WELL!

*Disclaimer: I understand that this very post may appear to be passive aggressive in nature. It's isn't. This is not directed at any one person. I have just been noticing how passive aggressive and negative so many people are. It aches me. It aches me and irritates me. Don't complain about it, CHANGE it.

Gandhi said it best...
"You must BE the change you wish you see in the world."
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Monday, 4 January 2010

Eli Young Band

Posted on 08:48 by Unknown



Eli Young Band
 
More CMT Music
 
More CMT Music Videos
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Saturday, 2 January 2010

Twenty Ten

Posted on 18:56 by Unknown
I resolve

to live a better story...

to go on dates...

to put myself out there...

to believe in myself more...

to pursue my dreams...

to love and be loved...

to write more...

to continue to take care of myself...

to pay down my debt...

to live and love where I am at...
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