Forgive and Forget?

I am pretty sure I want to punch whoever came up with "Forgive and Forget".
In spite of my recent endeavor in boxing, I am not a violent person.
I have never been in a physical fight (fighting with my sister when we were kids doesn't count).
That being said, I DEFINITELY want to punch whoever came up with that ridiculous saying.

The reality is, we should forgive.
We have been forgiven.
There is power in forgiveness.
The power that comes from forgiving sometimes lies in the forgiver more than the forgiven.

The memory is a powerful and wonderful gift.

I know, from experience, that there are some things that we wish we could forget.  We don't always want to remember every detail of every event.  Sometimes we do.  We get to choose whether we see memory as a blessing or a curse.  YOU GET TO CHOOSE!
When I hear of people who have lost their memory to Dementia, Alzheimer, or from any other tragedy that can happen, my heart breaks.  Sure, they can no longer remember the pain that they may have endured in life, but they also can't remember the name of their first love.

My problem with this whole "forgive and forget" nonsense is the forget part.  I believe that we should "Forgive but DON'T forget".  Forgive.  Forgive freely.  Don't you dare forget what it is that you are forgiving.  If we forget, we miss the lesson and the chance to learn and grow.

So, let's Forgive by Don't Forget... There is more to be learned in this scenario.