I have decided I would like to write more, even if it is just on this little bliggity blog I got right here. Of course I would LOVE to be published in some way, who wouldn't!? The ultimate goal, however, is to get my thoughts in order, and offer them to others as a gift. That being said, the following post is very rough and will likely turn into a series of blog posts, but I had to start somewhere. To the five of you who read this (What up MHart!), Enjoy!
These thoughts are not in any particular order. They are messy and jumbled and don't follow any particular flow. It is actually quite fitting that they are messy and don't follow a particular flow... relationships are the same way. These thoughts are a rough draft and preview of what is to come in future blog posts. These thoughts are part of, what I like to call...
If you like a girl, tell her.
In that, if you like a girl, your actions should reflect this; pursue her, call her, take her out, show her that she matter.
If you don't like a girl, tell her.
If you don't like a girl, your actions should reflect this; don't flirt with her, don't invite her into your everyday life, don't stroke her ego.
If you don't like a girl, and you know she likes you, stop hanging out with her.
Be honest about your feelings. You may miss the friendship or whatever it is she brings to your life but that is a risk you have to take. Plain and simple - she respected you enough to be honest with you about her feelings, you owe it to her to be honest and allow her the distance to move on.
If you are going to ask a girl out, DO NOT do so via Facebook or Text Message. CALL HER.
Don't tell a girl you are "different", show her.
You should never have to tell someone you are "different".
We give you an inch, and you take a mile - physically speaking.
You give us an inch, and we take a mile - emotionally speaking.
Your character is who you are when you think no one is watching.
NEWS FLASH - Someone is ALWAYS watching
Your words have weight.
Telling a girl she is "the best", "a catch", or "the kind of girl you marry" means something to the heart of a girl.
Song lyrics carry a deep meaning to females... Don't send obscure song lyrics in text messages or bring them up in conversation unless you are willing to back up said lyrics.
Sending text messages during the day, while one or both are unavailable to talk, is acceptable... sending text messages that turn into complete conversations in the evening is unacceptable.
Pick up the phone and CALL.
Have the common courtesy to respond to all text messages/emails/phone calls etc.
Sometimes the response will be hard to give... have the courage to give it anyway.
Going out to dinner is a date whether you want to admit it or not.
If you don't want to date a girl, don't take her to dinner.
In fact, if you don't want to date a girl, you shouldn't be hanging out with her one-on-one at all.
Always, Always, ALWAYS walk a girl to her car.
EVEN IF YOU ARE JUST FRIENDS! ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE JUST FRIENDS.
If you care enough about a girl to hang out with her, you should care enough to see that she gets to her car safely.
Our friends often have higher standards for us than we have for ourselves.
You have more to prove to them, than you do to us - act accordingly.
As with any relationship, friendship, dating, or otherwise, you have to earn the right to be heard in someone's life.
Call when you say you are going to call.
Show up when you say you are going to show up.
Be consistent.
Expect the same from us.
These thoughts are not in any particular order. They are messy and jumbled and don't follow any particular flow. It is actually quite fitting that they are messy and don't follow a particular flow... relationships are the same way. These thoughts are a rough draft and preview of what is to come in future blog posts. These thoughts are part of, what I like to call...
A Manifesto to Men
If you like a girl, tell her.
In that, if you like a girl, your actions should reflect this; pursue her, call her, take her out, show her that she matter.
If you don't like a girl, tell her.
If you don't like a girl, your actions should reflect this; don't flirt with her, don't invite her into your everyday life, don't stroke her ego.
If you don't like a girl, and you know she likes you, stop hanging out with her.
Be honest about your feelings. You may miss the friendship or whatever it is she brings to your life but that is a risk you have to take. Plain and simple - she respected you enough to be honest with you about her feelings, you owe it to her to be honest and allow her the distance to move on.
If you are going to ask a girl out, DO NOT do so via Facebook or Text Message. CALL HER.
Don't tell a girl you are "different", show her.
You should never have to tell someone you are "different".
We give you an inch, and you take a mile - physically speaking.
You give us an inch, and we take a mile - emotionally speaking.
Your character is who you are when you think no one is watching.
NEWS FLASH - Someone is ALWAYS watching
Your words have weight.
Telling a girl she is "the best", "a catch", or "the kind of girl you marry" means something to the heart of a girl.
Song lyrics carry a deep meaning to females... Don't send obscure song lyrics in text messages or bring them up in conversation unless you are willing to back up said lyrics.
Sending text messages during the day, while one or both are unavailable to talk, is acceptable... sending text messages that turn into complete conversations in the evening is unacceptable.
Pick up the phone and CALL.
Have the common courtesy to respond to all text messages/emails/phone calls etc.
Sometimes the response will be hard to give... have the courage to give it anyway.
Going out to dinner is a date whether you want to admit it or not.
If you don't want to date a girl, don't take her to dinner.
In fact, if you don't want to date a girl, you shouldn't be hanging out with her one-on-one at all.
Always, Always, ALWAYS walk a girl to her car.
EVEN IF YOU ARE JUST FRIENDS! ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE JUST FRIENDS.
If you care enough about a girl to hang out with her, you should care enough to see that she gets to her car safely.
Our friends often have higher standards for us than we have for ourselves.
You have more to prove to them, than you do to us - act accordingly.
As with any relationship, friendship, dating, or otherwise, you have to earn the right to be heard in someone's life.
Call when you say you are going to call.
Show up when you say you are going to show up.
Be consistent.
Expect the same from us.
