It is all too easy to leave a conversation without saying what really needs to be said. We have a "tough" conversation but rarely say the REALLY tough stuff. We leave off the last 10%. Sometimes it is perfectly acceptable and appropriate to leave off the last 10% but sometimes it is not only necessary but imperative that we speak truth.
I am so thankful for the people in my life that have earned the right to speak that last 10%. These people speak the 10% from a place of deep love and care. They have been there through ups and downs, highs and lows... they have earned the right to speak and to be heard.
I don't know which is more terrifying, being the person on the giving or receiving end of the last 10%. I have been on the receiving end on more than one occasion and it can be terribly uncomfortable. Tears flow. Words are spoken - and can't be unspoken. It comes and goes. In the end, I am a better person because of those conversations. Being the person who speaks the last 10% is scary and tough and takes a lot of courage.
If you tell someone that you love them, your actions need to reflect that - namely being willing to say the hard things.
Honesty.
Complete, brutal, gut-wrenching honesty.
It's not only necessary it is required.
So, take a risk and speak the last 10%... it will make both people stronger.
Monday, 7 January 2013
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