I am no longer a single lady.
I gots me a man.
His name is Nathan - I call him Nate. Some of my friends call him Nate the Great - he deserves that nickname.
Nate and I met the exact way I said "wouldn't work" for me... online.
I had this chip on my shoulder that I wouldn't be able to meet someone who "fit with me and what I am looking for" in an online setting. Pardon my bluntness and crassness here but I have always said "I want a man who loves Jesus and who isn't offended by the word F**k." Tall order. I wasn't sure a man fitting that description existed, and if he did, I thought he surely wouldn't be on any online dating site. I was wrong. I am so glad I was wrong.
Nate and I started communicating on New Years Day - a perfect way to start 2013 if you ask me.
We went on our first date on January 8th... it was everything one would want in a first date, or any date for that matter. That first date was just the beginning of many great times together. There hasn't been a day since January 1st, when we haven't' spoken - and only a few days when we haven't seen one another. He has, so quickly, become such an important part of my life. He is a gift.
Before meeting Nate, I didn't date much... and the guys I did date weren't exactly great. If I were being completely honest with you and myself, I would say that those dating situations were born from desperation and a deep want to be wanted. I always swore that I wouldn't settle and that is exactly what I did. After some close friends called me out on what I was doing, I took a step back and made the conscious decision to choose better - to not date to date but to date to find someone to spend the rest of my life with, to only date men who I would be proud to stand beside and would be proud to have standing beside me.
Being almost 28 and seemingly eternally single was tough at times. I would like to think that I "did the single girl" well. I chased my dreams - eventually landing me a great job in the music industry with co-workers that are dear friends. I traveled, near and far, to new and old places. I spent time with friends. I spent time alone. There were times when I was acutely aware of just how single I was, but most of the time I was content. I wanted someone to share life with, but I wasn't going to chase it down. I was willing to wait... even when waiting felt like torture.
I would do the wait all over again if I knew that Nate would be on the other side of all of the waiting. Nate was worth the wait. He is kind and caring and thoughtful and consistent and genuine and trustworthy and responsible and so many other things. He comes from a great family. He has an incredible work ethic. He makes me laugh. He makes me think. He pushes me to be the best version of me. We just fit.
It hasn't been all rainbows and butterflies either. We have had some tough conversations. We have had to be honest about feelings and emotions. It has been tough at times, but so worth it. You always hear people say "communication is key" in relationships... SO TRUE. Being in a relationship is a great opportunity to learn about yourself. A pastor of mine once said, "relationships are hard work, but it is the best and most rewarding work you will ever do." Once again, this man speaks truth. The work that goes into a relationship is tough, but SO WORTH it.
So, I have been pretty MIA from writing because I have been spending a lot of time with someone who has come into my life and has made it infinitely better.
I am a happy lady.
I am blessed... so blessed!
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